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The best catch up message is a short text that names something you remember about the person. Then it offers one easy next step, like a 20 minute coffee or a quick call next week. For example: "Hi [Name], saw [Company] just launched [specific detail] and thought of you. Coffee sometime in the next couple weeks?" Specific beats polite. A small ask beats an open one.
Most work ties don't end. They just go quiet. A catch up text is the easiest way to keep a good contact from becoming a stranger. It's far easier to send one now than to reach out cold when you need something.
What makes it work is proof you were paying attention. Mention a real detail: their new role, a project you shared, a talk you remember. Then make yes easy with a set time or a short call. Vague invites get vague replies.
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One message is easy. Hundreds of people, all year, is the hard part. Capstone Outreach puts everyone you know on a rhythm you pick, from weekly to every three months. When someone is due, a message like these is already written in your voice from your history with them. You approve it, and it goes from your own email or phone. See how it works.
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1. After two years of silence, no ask
Why it works: Naming a shared memory and saying there's no agenda clears the doubt that often follows a long silence.
2. Their company was in the news
Why it works: Real congrats give you a natural reason to reach out. They also give them something fun to talk about.
3. You'll be in their city
Why it works: A real visit with set dates gives them a reason to say yes now, not someday.
4. Turning "we should catch up" into a plan
Why it works: Two clear options and a short time block turn a polite wish into a calendar entry.
5. They just started a new role
Why it works: People in new roles are open to talking. Waiting until they settle shows you respect their time.
6. After meeting at an event
Why it works: Reminding them who you are and what you talked about turns a short chat into a real tie before it fades.
7. Sending something useful first
Why it works: Giving value before asking for time makes the catch up feel like a next step, not a request.
8. Former colleague, shared memory
Why it works: Warm memories get a fast reply from people you've been through hard times with.
9. Right after a great catch up
Why it works: A quick thank you with a named next step keeps a good talk going.
10. Year-end window
Why it works: The end of the year is a natural time to reconnect. Telling someone they made your list is flattering but not too much.
11. Honest ask for advice
Why it works: Being direct about the reason respects their time more than dressing a favor up as a social call.
12. Former client, no pitch
Why it works: Specific praise and a clear no-pitch promise lower their guard. They keep the door open for future work.
13. Staying on their radar, no reply needed
Why it works: Taking away the pressure to reply often makes people want to reply. It keeps you in mind at no cost to them.
Sending these to more than a few people? See how people keep track of who to follow up with, and when: what a personal CRM does and the best personal CRMs, compared.
When to send it
- Send within a week of a trigger. That could be a job change, company news, a post they shared, or someone saying their name.
- Text Tuesday through Thursday, mid morning or right after lunch. People are at their desks then, but not buried in meetings.
- If you'll be in their city, text five to ten days ahead. That gives them time to plan around it.
- Skip weekends, late evenings and the first hour of Monday. The exception is someone you already text casually.
- If it's been more than a year, reach out before you need anything. That way the first message has no ask at all.
What to avoid
- Don't write a long paragraph. If it doesn't fit on one phone screen, cut it in half.
- Don't send "We should catch up sometime!" with no date or plan. It's easy to agree with and never act on.
- Don't open with a long apology for the silence. One light line about the gap is plenty.
- Don't hide a sales pitch inside a catch up invite. They'll notice and remember it next time.
- Don't text someone you've only ever emailed without saying your name in the first line.
- Don't send a second text the same day if they haven't replied. Silence usually means busy, not no.
After you send it
If you don't hear back, wait five to seven days. Then send one short, friendly nudge. Add a new detail or an easier option, like a quick call instead of coffee. If that gets no reply, let it rest for a couple of months. Try again with a fresh reason. Once you reconnect, reach out every two to three months with something useful: a congrats, an article, an intro. Put a reminder in your calendar the day you meet.
Building the habit: how to keep in touch with contacts and what a personal CRM does.
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A study of 20 million LinkedIn members found that acquaintances, more than close friends, led to new jobs (Science, 2022). Capstone keeps those people warm. You approve every message, and it goes from your own email or phone.
Frequently asked questions
What are some catching up phrases?
Good catching up phrases are short and specific. Try "It's been too long" or "Saw your news and thought of you" to open. "Would love to hear what you're working on" and "Let's not wait another year" work too. Then add one clear next step, like a day, a place or a 20 minute call. A plain "Coffee next week?" turns the phrase into a real talk.
How do you tell someone you want to reconnect?
Tell them plainly and give a reason. Try something like: "Hi [Name], I was thinking about [shared project] and realized we haven't talked in ages. I'd love to reconnect. Coffee in the next few weeks?" Being direct is flattering, not awkward. Mention a real memory or recent news so they know it's personal. Keep the first ask small enough to say yes to easily.
How do you catch up with someone after a long time over text?
Admit the gap in one light line and mention something you remember. Skip the ask in the first message. For example: "It's been way too long. I was just thinking about [specific detail]. How are you?" Once they reply and the talk warms up, suggest a call or coffee. Leading with interest, not a favor, makes it feel real.
What is the 3 text rule?
The 3 text rule is mostly dating advice. A useful work version: don't send more than three messages in a row without a reply. Send your first catch up text and one follow up about a week later. Then send a final light note a month or two after that. If there's still silence, stop and wait for a better reason to reach out.
Can you provide an example of a meeting follow-up email?
Yes. Subject: Great catching up today. "Hi [Name], thanks for making time today. I really enjoyed hearing about [specific detail]. As promised, here's [link or intro]. Let's plan to talk again after [event or quarter]. Let me know if I can help with [their goal] in the meantime." Send it the same day. Keep it under five sentences, and deliver anything you promised.